Is the grass always greener on the other side and how to overcome this syndrome?

Since I was a child, I have been fascinated with the proverb ‘The grass is always greener on the other side’. My young, innocent mind used to wonder why people couldn’t use the time they spent in judging how much more green their neighbours’ grass was as compared to theirs in perhaps watering their own grass! When I had once mentioned this to one of my teachers at the time when we were taught this proverb, she had just answered with that condescending smirk of omniscience that adults unconsciously (or consciously) sport amongst kids and said,’You’ll find out when you get older.’ But little did she know, I had cracked the proverb already.

When I got older, I realized that the grass wasn’t always greener on the other side. It seemed greener. And that there was a big (huge, really) difference between being and seeming. We humans are a pretty stupid race, in that that we always envy those whom we think have it better because we have this superiority complex where we innately believe nobody should be better than us. And then when we find someone better than us in something, in comes nature with a bucket of green paint. Envy, one of the seven deadly sins, is the downfall of most humans.

Now, even though you read this and realized this was true, there will still be that one person who cooks better or writes better or looks better. And we all wish we could be that person. When you ask people,’Who would you become if you were told you could become anyone in the world?’, you’ll come across a plethora of answers, the creativity of which will ¬†range from cartoon characters to Disney princes or princesses to celebrities. However, you will rarely come across someone who says that they would still choose to be themselves.

What people forget is that every garden has weeds. If someone is better off than you are in some domain, they may also have some problems that you do not. In the novel ‘To Kill A Mockingbird’ by Harper Lee, Atticus Finch says that you never really understand a person until you climb into their skin and walk around in it. This struck a chord with me since the very first time I read it because it showed me that you can’t know what a person’s life is like until you live it. You may think your neighbour has greener grass, but you can’t know until you go and live in their house that maybe their plumbing is messed up. Learning to be content with your grass is all you can do in this life.

And this is where we come back to my childhood epiphany, where I found out the most fool-proof way to get this done: Water your own grass and make it greener instead of trying to gauge how much greener your neighbour’s grass is. The more you focus on developing your skills, hobbies, interests, the less you will feel like someone else has it better than you. You will be so engrossed in improving yourself in every way possible that you will have no time to be envious. However, as I grew up, I found another way to overcome the ‘grass is greener’ syndrome: Learn to be thankful that you have grass. I’m sure everyone out there has something, if not a lot, to be thankful for. It could be your family, your friends, your job, your school, your pets, or if you’re self-absorbed like me, your own self. Admit it, you could have been much worse off. So, make a list of all the things you can be grateful for and I guarantee the neighbouring grass will lose some of it’s sheen, if not all of it.

So, here’s to hoping that you can make your own grass greener and that once you do, you don’t forget to take a stroll through it every now and then to enjoy the benefits of all your hard work! ūüėÄ

 

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Care to jump?

 
Image result for skydiving lake wanakaIf someone handed you a parachute and asked you to jump out of a perfectly good aircraft, would you? Before contemplating the apparent impossibility of the answer being ‘yes’, think about this: There are people who have done it (like me), there are people who are doing it right at this very moment (if the weather permits), and there are people who will be doing it.
 
I’m sure that by now, you would have guessed that I am referring to one of the most thrilling adventure sports, skydiving. I have tried it once, and summing it up in a word, it was breathtaking. The site? Lake Wanaka, New Zealand.
 
It was a ‘heavenly’ experience. When you stand ready, about to jump down, there are no words to describe how it feels. The adrenaline rush, the thrill, the feeling of looking at the face of life and death at the same time, you feel more alive than you have ever felt before, but you are also more aware of your closeness to death at the same time. I jumped from the height of 15,000 feet , and the view I got was one of the best ones I have ever seen. 
 
First is the freefall which lasts for about a minute, but the feeling is one you remember throughout your life. The wind rushing by, the Earth getting bigger and closer, thrilled to the bone and amazed by the view. You feel like a bird, knowing what it must feel like to spread your wings and fly. Now if I had been given a choice, I would have stayed a bird. Surprisingly, the idea of going SPLAT on the Earth’s crust doesn’t disturb you then. Then, the parachute opens and you slow down, getting to see the beauty at leisure. You glide over the air as all the wind in the world comes to greet the new, unidentified and unnatural trespasser of their domain. The feeling is indescribable….the sheer joy of having been able to see such a view renders you utterly speechless.
 
I recommend that if you get a chance to do it, you should definitely try it. But you know what they say, if you don’t get it right the first time, skydiving is not for you!

The seasons and me


I can be the sun on a spring day,
Warm and fun so you’ll stay.
But I can shine on with no respite,
Killing you before you fight.

I can be the sea on a summer noon,
Relief from heat, feel like a boon.
But I can drown you just as quick,
Draw you in with a mere flick. 

 

I can be the breeze of an autumn eve,

So soft and nice before you thieve.
Then I can shake down all the leaves
From your tree of life before I leave.

 

 I can be the snowflake on a winter night,
Melting on touch and pure white.
But I can turn to hail as you blink your eye,
Wound you bad when you lie.
I’m the spring sun and summer sea,
Winter ice and autumn breeze.
Sweet as sugar when you’re nice,
While the devil’s hiding in plain sight. ūüėČ

The human soul – fact or fable?

Image result for human soulThe second people hear the word ‚ÄėSOUL‚Äô, the first¬†things that come to their minds are ghosts and spirits. This is a preconceived misconception as people¬†usually confuse¬†souls with¬†ghosts, or more accurately¬†poltergeists. People believe that the soul is stronger or¬†more powerful than them and man has always feared¬†things stronger than himself.

According to the Oxford dictionary, the soul is an immaterial part of a human being or animal regarded as immortal.

Bah√°’u’ll√°h stated¬†that the soul¬†not only continues to live after the physical death of the¬†body, but is, in fact, immortal.

Most atheists think that the idea of the immortal material soul is just a fable spun by people to make sure they do good deeds. But, a group of German researchers headed by Duncan McDougall in 1988 performed an experiment in which they measured the weight of the human soul!

They took the help of 200 patients who were on the verge of death and put them on a highly sensitive industrialized weighing scale. Upon the death of each person they saw a very small amount of change in the weight which was exactly the same for all patients, the difference in the weight was 1/3000th of an ounce which is about 0.00944 g. They tried to link this to some physical deterioration occurring at the time of death, but it could only be attributed to being the weight of the human soul or some kind of external life force.

This theory started to seem very plausible to people and there have been many follow-throughs in this area ever since. One famous mention of this science was in Dan Brown’s book, the Lost Symbol, in 2009 where he has written about Noetic science. Although this has almost scientifically proven that the soul exists, many people don’t agree. When I come to think of it, where did the idea of a thing such as soul arise? I believe it has its roots the materialistic nature of man, who cannot accept the fact that all things eventually end.

People find comfort in knowing that their family, friends, and they themselves will live on. But, this view is contradictory to the general acceptance of the idea. People think that it is the spirituality in them that makes them believe in things such as the soul which is considered to be very pure; but I believe that somewhere in this idea, the materialistic nature of people comes into play. The fact that people have linked the soul to rebirth, where people can experience the material world again and again proves this thought.

I believe that people should come to terms with the fact that things end and that they may not have a chance at another lifetime. Even if this is proved wrong (although no one can know for sure), people will learn to live in the moment and have no regrets when their end arrives. This is not to say that rebirth occurs or does not occur, because that is one mystery that is not likely to be solved anytime soon, it is just to say that people should live in the present and not worry about things so far into the future.